I will never forget the moment when we went looking for my engagement ring. We got engaged on a Saturday night, it took until the following Tuesday for us to head to the mall. I really had no idea what I wanted, but I did know that I loved sparkly things. The ring we bought fit our means at the time, but it didn’t really make my heart sing. Don’t get me wrong, what it symbolized – our love – was everything to me. But, the ring itself was not.
It didn’t take me long to start lusting after something bigger. There were the minor slights, people asking to see my ring and responding with “ohs” that voiced their surprise and disappointment. And there were the major slights, people with obviously bigger rings directly comparing their own to my simple solitaire. But, there was also my own love of big, flashy jewelry. Be it necklaces, rings, bracelets, or earrings my motto is the bigger, the better. I hated myself for it.
It took almost four years of looking and lusting at larger rings for me to voice my desire for an upgrade to B. I did so in shame and writhed with guilt. The funny part being that B, ever the pragmatic one, was far from upset. One thing we both agreed on from the get go is that we didn’t want my next ring to be a diamond. Diamonds are over priced, come with a lot of environmental and social issues, and frankly are not that special. I started looking into manufactured stones. Which led me to moissanite. It exists naturally in meteorites and as the inclusions inside of diamonds. Manufactured, it’s hardness rating is just below that of a diamond, it’s luster and light dispersion is higher. Even better, it’s ridiculously inexpensive.
I knew I wanted a two carat stone. For a diamond, low quality stones of that size start around 18-20 thousand. High quality stones can obviously soar into six figures. Even if we had the money to put the down payment for a house on my finger, I wouldn’t ever feel like I could wear it. My two carat moissanite? Even with getting it reset, cost less than my original engagement ring. I get to have my huge sparkly rock, without guilt or worry. I know that manufactured stones aren’t for everyone. I’m just really glad that they are for me.