While out bowling with B’s German Handball teammates last night, the Goalie asked our friend Superwoman how much weight she had gained during her pregnancy. We’ll ignore the fact that you just don’t ask a question like that for now, and continue on with the story because it gets much better. Keep in mind that our dear friend Superwoman is 6’5. She told him she’d gained about 30lbs or roughly 13 kilos. His response was it looked more like 30 kilos.
No, she didn’t kill him, maim him, or in any other way hurt him. Nor did she smack any of the other guys who harassed her about smuggling a bowling ball, bringing her own ball, etc, etc, etc. Her only comment on the situation was that she hoped something had been lost in the translation.
My overall thought on the situation is, when did we lose our sense of tact as a society?
When is it ever okay to ask someone that you don’t know well (or even that you do) how much weight they’ve gained for any reason? This bleeds over outside of weight issues though I think it’s most prevalent and shocking there.
I’ve started the process of switching my piano students from me traveling to them to them traveling to me. I know it’s less convenient for them; but it means I can teach more students. The shocking part has been the lack of tact that the parents have in responding to me. They are very disdainful, rude, and inconsiderate. And these are mostly good people, it’s just something about the fact that they see me as so young that they aren’t tactful. A little tact goes a long way. And, truthfully gets you farther. The students that are getting the prime spots on the schedule are the ones responding with the most tact.
Maybe it isn’t tact so much as respect? Have we as society lost all respect for one another? And does that stem from having lost all respect for ourselves?
Certainly something to think about. And while you’re thinking about it don’t ask any pregnant ladies how much they’ve gained. They might not have the self-restraint that Superwoman does and they might just sock you in the jaw.